Smile with/without technology

One of my professors has limited use of the computers and mobile phone. He purposefully uses the landline to communicate with many persons known to him. But sometimes he smiles at others who complain that their system has erased all their data. The secret of his serenity is the wisdom filled understanding that he cannot know everything but has to know basic things essential for his meaningful life and the job he is involved. Although we have gone very far in technology, the old system of hand written notes still holds good for privacy.

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A balance in informing us of the blessings of modern gadgets and its use can be of help. Traditional ways like using a note book for notes, using the land line phone, purposeful avoidance of mobile use for some days when one takes time out could make us serene amidst the stress of the technology filled world. Going green sometimes and be with the nature bare footed to enjoy our original connections with nature. Some old technology still holds good and each of us have to look back and have access to them.

World market with its creative manipulations is going to make us nervous if we are not careful about our priorities and choices. Lack of emotional strength and affectivity is affecting our young people mostly while facing job related technological challenges. The confusion is about what to choose and the how of it? The seductive and persuasive nature of the media, in this Android Generation is that it can convince us of certain things which may not actually be important. Creative and innovative thinking while realistically caring for oneself with true values, will brighten up our future. There could be a day in our week when we don’t use or have minimum use of mobile and other gadgets. Some of us if cheated & carried away by the media sometimes, it is understandable. But if majority in the world lack critical and deeper thinking where would we end? Manipulative market will say,  we also have to live…!

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You are welcome to read a related article with the Title: “Technological Temptations & Heads down” at: http://charlesalphonse.blogspot.it/2017/

Technological temptations & heads down

 

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Handling loneliness

Loneliness can affect us very deeply and there are people who seem to have no hope out of it. But one can take attitudes and make noble choices which can bring true meaning.

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning. So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness. The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors. The counselor then said to the rich lady “I’m going to ask Mary here to tell u how she found happiness. All I want u to do is listen to her.” So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

“Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy. So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed. Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy. Today, I don’t know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do. I’ve found happiness, by giving it to others.” When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy. “The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you…”

And so what then we need to be and do?

Happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey. Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now. Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision. Happiness is what you are, not what you have.Baby's love

And if you are happy please pass it on through your generosity. Our world is further sustained by caring, affectionate and generous people. Let us do our part.

(Thanks to the author who created this story & to Fr. Sibi Ofm Cap for sharing this insightful story. And if you know the name of the author,  do let us know).

Words, gestures & People

The great treasure in each one of us is the potential of hope we have through our words, gestures and presence. Hope exists in different people and reaches the most needed situations and people giving them new life. WP_20170308_07_14_25_Pro

It convinces me that we need to share good thoughts and words when possible. It will not cost us much but it may lighten somebody’s burden.

A man of incomparable hope

Every word that Pope Francis speaks inspires many who listen to him. You may also like the reflections of him in the following post I made recently. In that he explains how one could be truly happy.

http://charlesalphonse.blogspot.it/2017/03/hope-with-pope-francis.html

People like Pope Francis speak a language that touches us very deeply and gives us hope.

The following words of Sophia Loren was sent to me recently in whatsapp and when I forwarded it to others few responded saying that it came in a moment when they needed that badly. Sophia Loren is a popular actress whose words carry optimism,  she is known for her self-care & elegance. Note the inspirational touch of her words

“When I got enough confidence, the stage was gone….. When I was sure of Losing, I won……. When I needed People the most, they Left me……. When I learnt to dry my Tears, I found a shoulder to Cry on…… When I mastered the Skill of Hating, Someone started Loving me from the core of the Heart…… And, while waiting for Light for Hours when I fell asleep, the Sun came out….. That’s LIFE!! No matter what you Plan, you never know what Life has Planned for you…… Success introduces you to the World……. But Failure introduces the World to you……. ……Always be Happy!! Often when we lose Hope and think this is the end… God smiles from above and says, “Relax Sweetheart; It’s just a Bend, not the End..!”

Passionate Life & Rita

Am I a flourishing person who lives well in the present? If you could answer positively to this question then you may find the following reflections reflecting your life.

“Ignite your passion was the invitation,” by Suma Varughese, the editor of the Life Positive magazine, India. In her recent article titled “Fuel your flame,” she tries to define a life filled with passion. “Passion is the power that drives us long after our energy forsakes us. It is what takes us back to the drawing board time and time again, until we finally have it right. It is what enables us to prop up our drooping eyes, straighten our slumping form and continue laboring into the night long after exhaustion has rung in. It is what enables us to climb mountains, discover continents, uncover the secrets of life and create enduring works of art. The script of excellence is written with the ink of passion.” (www.lifepositive.com/Magazine/Jan2017)

You are welcome to read the rest of this article where she brings in the life story of few great men and women who made the difference by their passionate commitment to life and one another. You would be inspired by her passion, personal touch and artistic presentation.WP_20170204_22_32_48_Pro.jpg

I would also combine passion with Rita that is harmony. Passionately positive people will also find ways and means to strengthen themselves in a harmonious way. Life struggles may drain the passion of life and may lead one to stress and anxiety. In all these moments finding flourishing ways with self-care, healthy hobbies, receiving love in the presence of intimate people, engaging in creative activities that will fit with one’s passion and getting connected with the Creator through meditations and other methods of faith will bring true happiness, Rita (harmony) and passion.

(This picture was drawn by one of the participants of the Purnarita Course at Mater Dei Institute, Goa, India in Feburary 2017. It represents the journey into harmonious integration with a personal whisper: I am a blessing …etc.)

Propelling Pro-action in this New Year & beyond!

People who used to be very generous, kind and gentle are sometimes struck deeply by exploitation and manipulation that they either react too much or withdraw themselves into a solitary place. Emotional out bursts could be present when one’s limits are tried. I was surprised to see some of my strong negative reactions some years ago when I felt exploited beyond the limits. People who knew me to be a person full of heart approaches and gentleness were hurt by some of my over reactions. And it took some months of inner journey and integration to reconcile with the hostile realities I was facing.

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While facing a stark reality of life where one may tend to lose the existential grip can be very painful. Take the example of people who have to suddenly leave their homes and native country due to an emergency may tend to be reactive.

Proactive approach proposed by Stephen R. Covey is a great source of strength and resilience. I got many insights from his well-read book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.” After that the very word ‘proactive’ used to bring new surge of energy into my being.

https://www.stephencovey.com/

http://www.franklincovey.com/leadership/

It is an attitude of response with conscious awareness of the realities of life that had led us into pain and accept the weakness if it is true and also bear the pain with resolve to achieve something. He asks us to use our imagination to do the brain storming to try different possibilities and never give up gaining support from the independent will. If we continue to be optimistic and pro-active. In our world of competition one could be led to react everyday if he is under stress but one can also make up one’s will to be passionate positive. We need integrated initiatives to see beyond obstacles the hope of arriving at our goals. For more insights in this way you may also visit my other blog: www.charlesalphonse.blogspot.com

Is this way a to lasting happiness…?

We all are searching for lasting happiness. But some people are remarkable in their ways that go beyond ordinary comprehension in their heroic attitudes and generosity. Here in this picture is an example of true generosity that transcends ordinary levels and all religious barriers. It proves that in all of us there is a humanity that can unite our hearts and mind. Hat off to these noble people!

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During the moments of Anxiety & fear … What can we do?

In all our lives there could be moments when our roots are shaken due to some untoward happening or failure. During those painful or frightening moments the predominant emotions like fear and anxiety surface in great proportions.

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“I am afraid that my reputation will be gone. I fear terribly that someone my tarnish my name in the web by publishing materials against me. What will my family think about me if it happens? Will I be able to stand the calumny of my opponents? How could I safeguard my good reputation? I think it is better that I run away somewhere to the unknown place…” Thoughts of this nature are sure to surge in times of great agony, accusation and fall. Have you had these moments in your life? How to help people who suffer similar moments of uncertainty and anxiety?

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The possible responses:

-Talk to someone who care about you. A Good counselor, a friend, a caring family member who can understand or a spiritual companion

-Inhibit: Mind will crowd you with too many anxious thoughts so try to set priorities and say that you will deal with one issue at a time.

-Positive whispers to boost the inner child: Tell to yourself that you are in control of yourself. You are a good person, sincere, noble and genuine. You will do your best to improve the situation. There are people to support you… etc.

-Deep breathing: deep breathing is said to be of great help to handle a crisis moment. I used to ask stressed people to inhale and exhale slowly and deeply as often as possible specially during the moment of deep stress and anxiety. It has calming effect on our whole person.

-Handling anxiety: Too many things will bring more anxious thoughts and to handle this one could just doing some relaxation exercise, sing a song that gives hope and optimism, go for a free walk.

-Meditation: I would recommend a ‘Harmonic Integration Meditation’ Try to find a quiet place in your vicinity and sit quietly there for a while  if you can. Then being there slowly become aware of the Creator God’s presence in and around you. In fantasy go to a comfort zone and be there with the beloved Creator God in a way that pleases you. Allow the healing grace and warmth of HIM/HER flow through you and into the persons/situations that make you suffer. Surrender everything and be there as long as you wanted. Reminding yourself that you rely on God’s help and will overcome this agony with His/Her help. You may also visit: http://charlesalphonse.blogspot.co.il/2016/11/purnarita-dhyana-harmonious-integration.html

-Plan out a course of action/response with the help of friends and others who can be of support and help to you. Believe & remember that you have the potential within to respond appropriately!